Sometimes, I find a shaded spot under a tree.
I sit down for just a bit.
I let the sun peak at me through the leaves on the tree.
I let the cool breeze nourish my body and soul.
I remember the days of past when I played on a swing in Thatha’s field under a shaded tamarind tree. I remember and feel gratitude for that utterly carefree days of my youth.
I find peace.
I find strength.
Then, I get up and go about my usual madness.
Anyways, it was one of those rare Sunday evenings when I got to sit down quietly for a few minutes and enjoy a hot cup of chai.
Amen to finding peace.
Fate brings us together with thousands of people during our lifetime.
Only few of those people stay on our journey for a lifetime.
The rest come into our life for our mutual learning, healing and/or growth and then move on.
When I was younger, I used to mourn such loss.
But, I am stronger now.
I understand everything happens for a reason.
So, I have become braver to let go and to exercise my free will.
After all, we are here to live and let live.
That said, the fine dance that fate plays with our life is beyond fascinating.
Is it not?
How has fate played with your life?
Have you exercised your free will recently?
Appa told me many decades ago that if one person doesn’t pull their weight in any crucial relationship …then that relationship is bound to fail or become dysfunctional.
He urged Kumar and me to pull weight together in everything including parenting.
day after day,
week after week,
month after month,
year after year,
we have been pulling together.
Some days I am just so freakin tired of it all.
That is why I need upbeat music on my headphones.
That is the only thing that can keep me going.
After all these years, I think I am finally beginning to learn how this game is played.
You say “Oh! I have been having a headache all day”.
And, magically, pooha umpa appears on the kitchen nook.
Try it and let me know if the magic works.
Leverage is the name of the game.
Speaking of leverage, have you ever heard the phrase when life gives you lemons, make lemonade with them?
Well, there is a slight twist to it.
I give my resident magician Rohit Dhamankar some curdled milk. He gives me panneer, masala milk, peda and rasagoola.
Not a bad deal, eh?
“Choice Theory explains that, for all practical purposes, we choose everything we do.” ― William Glasser
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The Ten Axioms of Choice Theory from William Glasser
1. The only person whose behavior we can control is our own.
2. All we can give another person is information.
3. All long-lasting psychological problems are relationship problems.
4. The problem relationship is always part of our present life.
5. What happened in the past has everything to do with what we are today, but we can only satisfy our basic needs right now and plan to continue satisfying them in the future.
6. We can only satisfy our needs by satisfying the pictures in our Quality World.
7. All we do is behave.
8. All behavior is Total Behavior and is made up of four components: acting, thinking, feeling and physiology
9. All Total Behavior is chosen, but we only have direct control over the acting and thinking components. We can only control our feeling and physiology indirectly through how we choose to act and think.
10. All Total Behavior is designated by verbs and named by the part that is the most recognizable.
The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go. – Dr. Seuss